Yes typo! This was based on a consensus.app query on traits that drive attractiveness for both genders but I didn't link it and now can't find it anymore. Working on adding more links/background, sorry about this!
It didn’t really sit right with me that the first item under "Women", with the heading: "How to be dateable? - Develop Core Traits",
was "Youth".
How are women supposed to Lovemaxx themselves based on this?
I would have suggested potentially a section: Hard Truths. But i also don't think this is in general relevant,
I hear about old people dating, my grandma dated someone in her 80s. If someone is old and lonely, they can: join a book club, join a bowling league, try to improve their eye contact, do group exercise, take a community center cooking class, ask someone on a date etc. etc.
I also think the article doesn’t cover much.
Wouldn’t a core strategy be to ignore all the advice in this and simply ask 20 people out?
About location, there are millions of people in NY and San Fran, it kinda seems like you’re implying people should move cities, when there’s probably a thousand lower hanging fruits to go for first.
Like if you can’t find a date in a city of 5million, I don’t think the problem is gender ratios in the population.
I think the main points should be:
1. Start asking people out, or at least invite them to socialize in a fun group activity
2. Ask trusted honest persons if there are easy wins for you (shaving head if balding, or maybe you stink, or have terrible fashion sense)
3. join 3 dating apps, spend time on your profiles, get 2-3 harsh/honest people to review (probably not your friends who care about you and your feelings). Of course dating apps suck and feel shitty, but they're actually incredible if you compare to the alternatives.
4. invite groups of friends to go out to fun social things. tell them to bring new people. expand your social circle.
5. reflect on your experience doing the above. Are there any force multipliers? ie: Your friend Sandra tends to introduce you to 5 new people every time you see her?
2. Which activities are better: probs Salsa Dancing, probs not Midieval bow-making
3. easy ways to meet new people: meetup.com forexample
4. if you're honestly a 1 or two (of 10) probably get plastic surgery. It could be a big win, no need to feel judged.
5. identifying and joining existing communities
Basically... being in the right market, signaling status, and developing core traits, are not really good or practical advice. Lets say i'm the best man in the world (traits), and people can tell (signallling), and I'm in a room full of the people I'm attracted to (market)... still nothing is going to happen, or?
Hey thanks for taking the time to write this out! I agree that this post maybe stayed too high-level and could've been more practical. Will try to add more in next year's version.
If we stay with your example of the most attractive man in the world, what's missing is the approach, and that's covered in the follow-up post ;) https://www.euzoia.org/p/love-settle
I was also torn about including the age but it just seems to have such a big effect that it makes sense to include as something to be aware of. You can't make yourself younger but you can plan your dating with the knowledge that you will get older.
typo? "meternal investment capability,"
I'm not really sure what this is...
also in what sense should women maxx this??
Being more fertile/pregnable? more patient and caring?
or its the width of the hips?
seems a bit outdated
I would instead suggest women make more eye contact, smile, and start conversations (like everyone else)
Yes typo! This was based on a consensus.app query on traits that drive attractiveness for both genders but I didn't link it and now can't find it anymore. Working on adding more links/background, sorry about this!
Hi,
It didn’t really sit right with me that the first item under "Women", with the heading: "How to be dateable? - Develop Core Traits",
was "Youth".
How are women supposed to Lovemaxx themselves based on this?
I would have suggested potentially a section: Hard Truths. But i also don't think this is in general relevant,
I hear about old people dating, my grandma dated someone in her 80s. If someone is old and lonely, they can: join a book club, join a bowling league, try to improve their eye contact, do group exercise, take a community center cooking class, ask someone on a date etc. etc.
I also think the article doesn’t cover much.
Wouldn’t a core strategy be to ignore all the advice in this and simply ask 20 people out?
About location, there are millions of people in NY and San Fran, it kinda seems like you’re implying people should move cities, when there’s probably a thousand lower hanging fruits to go for first.
Like if you can’t find a date in a city of 5million, I don’t think the problem is gender ratios in the population.
I think the main points should be:
1. Start asking people out, or at least invite them to socialize in a fun group activity
2. Ask trusted honest persons if there are easy wins for you (shaving head if balding, or maybe you stink, or have terrible fashion sense)
3. join 3 dating apps, spend time on your profiles, get 2-3 harsh/honest people to review (probably not your friends who care about you and your feelings). Of course dating apps suck and feel shitty, but they're actually incredible if you compare to the alternatives.
4. invite groups of friends to go out to fun social things. tell them to bring new people. expand your social circle.
5. reflect on your experience doing the above. Are there any force multipliers? ie: Your friend Sandra tends to introduce you to 5 new people every time you see her?
loads of other things to discuss
1. basic physical things, eye contact, escalating touching(while foregrounding and emphasizing consent)
2. Which activities are better: probs Salsa Dancing, probs not Midieval bow-making
3. easy ways to meet new people: meetup.com forexample
4. if you're honestly a 1 or two (of 10) probably get plastic surgery. It could be a big win, no need to feel judged.
5. identifying and joining existing communities
Basically... being in the right market, signaling status, and developing core traits, are not really good or practical advice. Lets say i'm the best man in the world (traits), and people can tell (signallling), and I'm in a room full of the people I'm attracted to (market)... still nothing is going to happen, or?
Hey thanks for taking the time to write this out! I agree that this post maybe stayed too high-level and could've been more practical. Will try to add more in next year's version.
If we stay with your example of the most attractive man in the world, what's missing is the approach, and that's covered in the follow-up post ;) https://www.euzoia.org/p/love-settle
I was also torn about including the age but it just seems to have such a big effect that it makes sense to include as something to be aware of. You can't make yourself younger but you can plan your dating with the knowledge that you will get older.